At 2:30 AM, my 71-year-old mother called me from the police station, bruised and terrified. “Your husband attacked me, then called the cops and said I threatened him,” she wept. My “perfect” husband of 15 years claimed he acted in self-defense after she came at him with a heavy iron fireplace tool. I didn’t scream or cry. I just drove to the station, armed with one impossible fact that would destroy him.
At 2:34 on a humid, suffocating summer morning, I was walking toward my car outside Fort Belvoir, Virginia, when my phone shattered the silence of the empty parking lot. As a Lieutenant Colonel in the United States Army, I was accustomed to sleep deprivation. I had just completed a demanding twenty-four-hour strategic planning assignment. My…